What The World Needs Now…….and It’s Up To Us All. x

These past few days, weeks for some of us, have been worrying, scary and upsetting.Raging fires in Australia, volcano’s erupting, floods in places where they were never expected. Swarms of locust destroying crops that were much needed. Terrorism, war, murders and rapes. Now a new virus that is spreading at an alarming rate. What on earth is happening to our world? All of these bring fear.I often wonder if our world is fighting back. Who knows but in my limited knowledge I can only see one common factor in all of this sadly. Us. the Human Race. As someone once said, we are living here like we have some place else to go. Like the Earth is not the only place we can survive. Well at this moment in time, it is and it is up to all of us to change things. We all need to do our bit. I am not going to talk in this blog about Climate change because everyone else is and I am in no position to preach about something I know little about. I am just venting and giving my opinion.

Most reasons for war, terrorism, rape and murder are man made.Where is respect these days? Respect for others, their right to live their own lives. Where is compassion, again allowing others to live how they choose as long as it hurts no one. But looking at the bigger picture, we all need to be kinder, more thoughtful of others, more compassionate and caring and show empathy for our fellow man. We all belong to the same family, the family of Man and need to remember this. 

But.

What hope do we have if we do not practice this within our own family, our birth family? What hope do we have of caring for others, those not blood related, if we hurt, ridicule, and cause pain to those who should be closest to us. Our own flesh and blood. Our own siblings. Our own family. How do we include the larger family we belong to, show them love and compassion, stay close to them, share with them and love them, if we can so easily hurt our brothers and sisters? No hope at all, so something has to change.

This past few weeks I have witnessed the cruelty and unkindness within a family. My family. The family I was born into and those I grew up with. I have been shut out at a time I should have been included. Nothing new there but I suppose it never ceases to shock me how wicked people can be, at a time when their own feelings should be set aside. As some of you know, I am estranged from most of my birth family, have been for the past 6 years courtesy of my youngest sister. I have been fed second hand lies about my sister’s funeral, having been told she has been cremated and her ashes sent abroad a few weeks ago. This is not true.How cruel, unnecessary and hurtful is that. During the last few weeks all kinds of stories and lies have come my way and I have seen the very worst of what lengths some people would go to to hurt me. But I have also seen the very best in those who really care and to them I am forever grateful. I have been comforted by my late brother’s family and friends who have shown true empathy and love and I thank you all. My own little family ‘here on the farm’, have, as always, shown support and love and held me while I cried. They know how I feel about them x

I fear for us as a race, I fear for the future of our children. During the past few years of blogging, I have been contacted by so many readers who have families like mine. That makes me sad. No one should have to bear that burden. No-one should be shut out of the family they belong in. But it happens far too often. Too easily. Some families have no respect or concern for anyone.We all have one mother and one father. I was not lucky enough to have a good mother but I was always there for her, right up to the end. Why? Because she was family. I also hear of awful things happening within a family but they pull through. Why? Because they are family and families should stick together.Mine have not done that, well, not to me. Of my siblings now, there are just 2 of us. Me and my youngest sister Tricia. For unknown reasons, she chose to alienate herself from me, more than 40 years ago. No one knows why, I know for a fact that nothing happened to bring this about. I have tried many times to make this right and failed. Coming back into the lives of my late brother and my daughter,after more than 35 years,she has caused me pain, loss, both financial and emotional and estrangement from my own daughter and grand children. How can family do this? Now she is on her own.

Why am I telling you this? Repeating it I think? Because if we can’t honour our own birthright, if we can’t show love, tolerance, respect within our own set up, our birth family,to our siblings, how can we ever expect to do this for others? How can we show these traits to the bigger family, to those in our society, those in other countries who live different lives to us but are still part of our earth family? What hope is there, for our global family? For the bigger picture? For mankind? Over the years I have been saddened by how many families can treat each other so badly. It needs to stop. It needs to stop now beginning at home. Why? Because the world is facing crisis after crisis and we need each other. We are all so quick to blame, to hurt, to destroy. Each other and our planet. As Billy Ocean sang today on the radio, ‘We have one world let’s take care of it. People out there will burst your bubble with the games they play.’ We need to stop. Stop hurting each other, stop harming our Earth and thus stop hurting ourselves. 

So let’s begin here. Let’s spread love to our friends. Show respect to our neighbours. Do our bit for Mother Earth and in that way we will help ourselves. Each and everyone of us.

Me! I have had enough. Enough lies. Enough pain. Enough hurt to last for the rest of my life. I don’t need or want any more thank  you.These past 2 weeks have shown me that people hurt you because they don’t like them selves. That is through no fault of mine, I know but it is sad. I can’t change them, can’t make this right as I wanted, so have to accept it. But in the wider world, I can make a difference. I can do my bit for the environment.I  can love my family and friends as I do and try always to be kind to everyone. I want to spread hope, love and happiness. Make people smile and make people feel good about life and about them selves. My life has changed dramatically these past years but I am still here. Still loving my family and in spite everything, I still care.

Thank you for reading . x

Author: carolannwright

I am a Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist and author. I live on a beautiful smallholding near the Welsh coast with my husband, daughter and ponies, dogs, cats and ducks. An wonderful peaceful place to live. I have a Masters in Counselling CBT and run my own private practice where I see a diverse group of clients. View all posts by carolannwright